I don’t know if it’s the surgery that’s given me more clarity or confidence, but I’ve realized I can do hard things. Women need strong female role models, and I’m not going to complain about inequality—I’m going to be part of the solution. Also, tell them to take their own notes, we’re busy.

Life is so much easier when you meal prep, but honestly, not having a personal chef is absolute horse shit. Also, why don’t I have the same income as Oprah? It just doesn’t make sense.

I’m almost 8 weeks post-op, and I’m really happy with how I’ve worked on my eating habits, incorporated movement, and focused on sleep. Each day is a roller coaster of doubt, fear, happiness, and progress, but what I no longer feel is the fear of dying unnecessarily young.

After surgery, there are moments when you just have to trust the process, even when things stall. It’s not easy, and tantrums happen, but staying on track is key. Sometimes, your body has its own plans—like when you eat too fast, and the “pouch gremlins” send the food right back up.

It’s only in the last few months I truly believe that I am worth it, I deserve it, I am good enough. My life goal is to live authentically, to be unapologetically me, to help others, and to make sure the people in my circle know they are worth it too.

There is still a stigma about surgery to help combat obesity, but there’s a lot that can be done to educate people on their options. Surgery isn’t the easy way out, but for some of us, it’s the only way out. Be kind to yourself, don’t take shit from anyone, and know your worth.

I’m so glad I went out, all of my lead-up anxiety was for nothing, which anxiety typically is. I don’t know exactly how or when, but I became surrounded by a circle of friends who are the most caring, genuine, supportive oddballs ever.

My goal for this blog is to share my journey, what’s real for me, and what I learn along the way. I’ve always felt I had a bigger purpose in life—maybe this is it. I’m not afraid to have challenging conversations, and I’m okay if your opinion isn’t the same as mine (you’d be wrong though).